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A wedding with a view to happiness


Michael James + Michael Neary


Words: Damien Woolnough

Photography: Lisa Lent 


30th May 2018

According to the well-worn reading from Corinthians in The Bible "Love is patient". Michael James and Michael Neary know this is true. The couple waited eight years for marriage equality in Australia, to celebrate their love with a wedding that made the wait worthwhile.

After a ceremony with the Sydney Harbour Bridge and Sydney Opera House in the background the couple celebrated their marriage with the dancefloor filler Finally by Ce Ce Penniston.

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"We did wait eight years from our engagement for marriage equality, so we thought it was more than appropriate," Neary said.

Date
April 26, 2018

Suits
Made by the Bespoke Corner Tailor, 1/55 Regent St, Paddington.

The couple's initials M + M (a favourite here at Marry The Man) were stitched beneath the collar of the grooms' jackets to commemorate the occasion. 

We entered our ceremony to I Love You Always Forever, sung by Australian artist Betty Who.

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Shoes
Aquila

Rings
Rebecca Overman Jewellery, San Francisco

Fragrance
MR by Burberry

Location
Museum of Contemporary Art, Sydney.

The couple chose the The Harbour View Room overlooking Sydney Harbour.

Celebrant
Georgia O’Brien

Wedding party
The grooms' mothers Delma James + Ronda Neary were part of the ceremony. The mothers appeared with the grooms as vows were exchanged and delivered speeches at the reception.

Michael, I place this ring on your finger as a symbol of my commitment to you.

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Michael Neary reading vows to his almost husband Michael James.

Music at the service

"We entered our ceremony to I Love You Always Forever, sung by Australian artist Betty Who," Neary said.

"For the registry signing we chose Brighter Than The Sun by Colbie Caillat.

"At the end of the ceremony we had Finally by CeCe Peniston. We did wait eight years for our engagement for marriage equality so we thought it was more than appropriate."

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Michael James reading his vows to his almost husband Michael Neary.

Highlights

"The highlight for us was when our celebrant said:

'Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of two people to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life. And can we all just take a moment to say 'about time!' for the new legal wording!'

"When she said this 108 people cheered and threw their hands up in the air, it was a very special moment."

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Vows

Michael James's vow

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, Michael James, take thee, Michael Neary, to be my lawful wedded husband.

Michael, I love you for being you. You are the man of my dreams! You are my most favourite person in this whole, wide world.

I love that you are kind and a little crazy.I promise to always be there for you by your side. I promise to always cry or laugh with you even at the worst or best of times.

I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with you. I want you to become all that you can be.
I promise to put us first always. Most of all I promise to look after to you [our saying].

Michael, I place this ring on your finger as a symbol of my commitment to you.

I promise to always cry or laugh with you even at the worst or best of times.

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Michael Neary's vow

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, Michael Neary, take thee, Michael James (Mick, MJ, Micko) to be my lawful wedded husband.

Michael, I never thought I would ever love someone like I love you and to feel just as loved in return.

I am so very lucky to have found you. You are my bestest friend in a world and there is nothing I wouldn’t do for you or with you.

I promise to stand by you, to try and make you laugh when you are sad or cry with you. I promise to always try to make you feel as special as you are to me.

I promise to grow (and shrink) with you.

I promise to always look after to you.

But above all I promise to love every part of you unconditionally for the rest of my life.

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Champagne
Mumm Cordon Rouge NV, Mumm Rosé NV.

Wine
Kangarilla Road Chardonnay.

Xanadu Exmoor Sauvignon Blanc Semillon.

T’Gallant Cape Shank Pinot Noir.

Maxwell Silver Hammer Shiraz.

Cake
Exquisit Cheese wedding cake from Ocello. The couple's two miniature schnauzers who were unable to attend the wedding were included with silhouettes on the cheese cake.

Music
Planet Groove 

Stylist
Funktionality 

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First dance
You by Marcia Hines.

"Planet Groove learnt the song for us. We asked all of our guests to join us on the dance floor and we all danced to the song together. The words 'Something very special about you' allowed us to share how we felt about each other and also how we felt about our guests.”

Honeymoon
We spent a week at the Marina Bay Sands in Singapore.

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